Marriage, even the best of marriages, can take effort and work but no
one can claim to be an expert when it comes to marriage. As complicated
as the institution is, there are some well entrenched myths about
Nigerian marriages that almost everyone in Nigeria is familiar with.
Below are a list of common widely held but false beliefs {i.e. myths} that are attached to marriages in Nigeria:
1. A Good Marriage Begins by Finding Mr. or Ms. Right
There is the belief that having a good marriage comes with first
finding and marrying Mr Right but in reality there is no such thing as
Mr/Mrs Right because no one on earth is perfect.
2. The more educated a woman becomes, the lower are her chances of getting married
Women in this part of the world are...
often discouraged from aiming
high because when they do, no man will have the courage to ask them out
not to talk of marrying them. In a reality, men nowadays do not want to
marry any woman that has nothing to bring to the table. Marriage these
days has become a partnership.
3. Your Spouse is Your Best Friend
Because a lot of people say this, some people begin to force their
spouse to become one but usually this shouldn’t be so. The truth is that
your spouse should be your closest friend after all friendship should be
the foundation of any relationship but forcing your spouse to be your
best friend means trying to mold and mash him or her spouse into acting the
way you think a best friend should.
4. Mother-In laws are bad
You often hear some ladies say they would never
marry a man whose mother is still alive because of the many Nigerian
mother-in laws are deemed to be wicked and the many horrible tales they
have heard about some mothers in-law, however this doesn’t not apply to
all, as not all are bad.
5. Your partner’s job is to make you happy
You can’t depend on someone else to make you happy, otherwise you’re
going to end up alone and depressed. It is OK for you partner to do
things o make you happy but you patterning your life’s happiness on what
your partner does, would leave you very miserable. The real deal is for
you to make yourself happy first before making someone else.
6. Your Marriage Completes You
Your spouse is not God or a magic genie with wish-granting abilities.
Your spouse is a human, therefore a good relationship should not
complete you; it should inspire and challenge you to work on being a
better person. Putting unrealistic mythical expectations on your
relationship, would end it in a tragedy.
Please, kindly your make views known about this.........
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