Marriage is complicated and filled with challenges at every areas, isn't it? Of course, YES! When marriage rates fall and divorce rates climb, one can’t help but wonder whether there are any lasting marriages at all.....
Although, glory to God, many marriages exist where husbands and wives take their vows seriously. Is it possible for one to actually learn a thing or two from these marriages?
Now, consider these ten facts signs can really...
help one know if a marriage is going to last forever or not.
1. Unconditional Love.
This is the most important and the number one fact that really makes a marriage works and established between the couple, because there is no way a marriage can be fulfilled or work-out without love.
You should love and cherish your spouse without any condition at every point in time.
Daily love and charity should come naturally if you are in love. Little acts of love and charity are easy like a kiss before work, a little note on the bathroom mirror, a phone call or text throughout the day, a small act of service (and maybe another kiss or two).
2. There must be Communication.
If a marriage is going to last forever,then continuous communication, both verbal and non-verbal is another fact that is very vital.
Successful spouses truly talk to each other, and not just small or any talk. These couples still frequently have lasting conversations just like they did when they first fell in love. They formed a pattern of communication at the inception of their marriages and never deviate from it.
3. Forgiveness
This is very important in every marriage, if the marriage will last long, as one is bound to offend the other at any point in time, that is, unexpectedly or unplanned.
Moreover, forgiveness is an underrated aspect of many marriages. Grudges are just so easy to hold tight on! But we all have our quirks, our bouts of weirdness, our failings as we all do things that could offend at every turn. Forgiveness should be asked for at every point when there is a fault at hand or being guilty of an offense.
Realizing and accepting ones flaws will help keep a marriage strong, but honestly, forgiving your spouse on a daily basis will solidify your relationship. There is an old adage, which says, “Never go to bed angry” is still pretty good advice.
4 . Commitment.
An unwavering commitment to your spouse cements your feelings for him or her, stirring within you a fierce loyalty. Though our culture tends to gloss over and minimize commitment and devotion, none of us can simply say or do whatever we want without consequences.
No matter what, never stop working to strengthen your commitment to your spouse, for this is the mark of truly successful marriages.
5. Being there for each other — It doesn't matter the situation.
Marriages are battered with challenges, conditions and several unforeseen circumstances be it small and large. In successful marriages, such situations mentioned above still rear their ugly heads, but spouses are there for each other no matter what happens.
Are you sensitive to your spouse’s challenges? Sometimes, those challenges are not as evident as we would like them to be, but your attentiveness will pay off in the end.
6. Sharing your dreams and hopes together.
We all have hopes and dreams. Some come to pass. Some don’t. But lasting couples share their hopes and dreams with each other and then work together toward bringing those goals to fruition.
Nothing, perhaps, is more gratifying than achieving a common goal with your spouse.
7. Your spouse is the first one to hear your news — good or bad
Do you remember when you and your sweetheart first fell in love? Who was the first person you wanted to talk to each day, the first person you wanted to share your day’s events with?
In rock solid marriages, this is still the case. These couples literally cannot wait to tell their spouses any news.
Spouses should never learn important things from Facebook, Twitter or any social media.
8. Never fantasize about being with someone else
Remember at the marriage altar, you made the promise to cherish your spouse and be loyal to him or her, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer. In our society, it is easy to get caught up in the many infidelities and immodesty found in movies, TV shows, social media… It seems to be a commonplace in our culture to “fantasize” because everybody else is doing it.
But solid marriages do not allow these thoughts to creep in. Focus, and pay strict attention to your spouse.
9. Always give up the “Blame Game”
In numerous marriages (particularly those that end in divorce) a tendency to blame one’s partner for anything bad that happens becomes a commonplace. Fingers point, hateful words like, “it’s your fault”,etc. escape from angry lips.
10. You should have a date, at least once a week or twice a month.
Dating is the glue that welds together communication, love and understanding. If your marriage is a keeper, you anticipate that special weekly time with your spouse.
As we all know that we live in a busy, bustling world full of all sorts of things that derail our priorities. Setting aside one evening or as many as you can to be alone with your spouse is paramount to a continued successful marriage.
Even though all these ten facts are present in your marriage, things might not always be perfect, but keep going. Your marriage will grow more perfect every day. And in the end, the overall key to success hinges on trying to do what one very wise man once recommended doing.
Wishing all married couples, a long marriage life.
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